Polyamory Sleeping Arrangements

The Submissive Guide Journal Prompts asked
What are your sleeping arrangements?

The Kama Sutra of Sleeping Couples by Dorothy Tan

The prompts asked in respect to Owner/possession and if the sub or slave sleeps elsewhere than with their owner. While I will answer that, I also wanted to write about this prompt because I’m asked about it a lot in respect to my poly relationship.

I sleep with Mr. Faust.
Part of our polyamory boundaries is that we do not spend nights apart. This is not to suggest other poly couples should adopt this rule, it is only to express how we do things.

As part of this rule of not sleeping apart, if my girlfriend wants to sleep with me, she has to come over to my place and stay the night. Mr. Faust and I understand that this could cause some awkwardness since she and Mr. Faust do not have a romantic or sexual relationship.

We have a king size bed – a mandatory buy when we were living with our ex and the three of us were sleeping in the same bed. This allows for everyone to have their own space…and the cat to sleep where he wants to as well.

Our sleeping arrangement is that Sir sleeps between me and the door – a protective act that he has always done since we started sleeping together. I sleep in the middle since I love snuggles and I act as a barrier between two people that don’t necessarily want to be close and comfy with each other. My girlfriend sleeps on the other end furthest from the door…but between me and the monsters under the bed and in the closet…

If Mr. Faust was to find a girlfriend we would either have to figure out another sleeping arrangement or switch out slumber party nights, lol.

KotW: Electrical Play

The Kink of the Week is Electrical Play – this might shock you but, its not one of my favorite kinks though I’ve grown to appreciate it as a Top.

Electrical Play

So what is your viewpoint on electricity as a kinky toy? Do you play with it? If so, how do you play with it?
Here are a few of the more “common” types of electrical play. Have you ever played with any of them? Are there others that you enjoy that aren’t listed?

Violet Wands
Tens Units
Cattle Prods/Tasers
Bug Zappers

Have you experienced electrical play yourself? Did you enjoy it? Do you find it painful, erotic, irritating – electricfying? 😉
If you play with electricity as a Top or bottom, what draws you to it?

If you had asked me a month ago would I ever be into Electrical Play, I would have said NO.
I don’t like the feel of it. It’s not that its painful, for a flogging or paddling is so much more painful to me and I enjoy them. I simple don’t like the feel of it. It doesn’t turn me on…or didn’t.

A friend of mine recently lent Mr. Faust his Violet Wand kit, complete with several attachments. I was not pleased. I thought, “oh no, now Sir will want to use it on me…”

Instead of my dread being made real (well, I suppose it was as I had to experience being electrified a couple of times in order to remind myself how it felt) something awesome happened. I was able to see it used on other submissives and to eventually use it at as Top.

How fun to watch a body squirm as the scent of ozone filled the air and the arch of electricity lurched from wand tip to skin and raised hairs and chill-bumps. It was so exciting!

I became an Electrical Play Top. My first task – zap my girlfriend Wolfy’s vagina of course! ^_^

I also was pleased to watch as Devious Kitty and Wolfy proceeded to have an electrical slap fight in the middle of the living room, aiming for tender areas like nipples. If you haven’t seen two girls electrical slap fight, grab a violet wand with the attachment that makes the wearer the electrical conduit and give this a shot!

Electrical Play
Taser

At Northern Exposure, Wolfy experienced electrical play on a broader scale in the class Stun Gun Fun with Eibon. She was given a taser for her efforts in the class! Oh how I have had fun with that this weekend!

I also learned how just because someone can be electrified in one place and handle it like a champ, taking that same tool at the same strength to another part of the body (oh, say, tits or ass or pussy) and they squirm and squeal and turn many shades of red (not gray). It is a beautiful thing!

KotW: Knife Play

The Kink of the Week is Knife Play – a topic I’ve been on the sharp, cold receiving end of.

Have you ever played with knives? Do you want to? Does the sight of a knife’s sharp edge excite you, make you afraid, do both? What about the feel of a knife?
Does a knife at your throat (or other body parts), or does holding a knife to someone’s throat (or other body parts) make you hot or turn you cold? Is it fear play for you or just sensation play?

Knife Play

Mr. Faust loves knife play! The above picture is a knife play scene with him where he slit my fishnets to shreds and peeled the remainder off of me at a play party hosted by the Fox Den.

Knives have never been a huge kink of mine but I love looking at the pretty knives available at fairs and festivals and pawn shops, etc. Mr. Faust has a rather large collection of knives as well that he is very happy with.

One of the hottest erotica stories I ever read was on knife play that involved a Dom coming home to his sub sleeping with the window open. He scared her into waking up with a knife at her throat then used the handle of the knife to fuck her. Read that story years ago and it still turns me on to think of it. I wish I recalled the author and title…

Mr. Faust uses knife play as a lead up to blood play (where he uses sterile blades) most of the time. He normally uses a large knife for show, to rile the submissive up then run across her skin to train her not to squirm at the feel of cold metal on her heated skin. After he feels she’s ready…or terrified enough…he then switches to the sterile scalpel blades fresh from their packaging. (I am aware that not all knife play involves blood play, this was simply his experiences with it).
The cuts in the following image are on our ex are also a reminder to those who are getting cut – listen to your knife/blood play top, when enough is enough…its enough AND don’t pick at the scabs and use salve or neosporin unless you want scars…