Polyamory Sleeping Arrangements

The Submissive Guide Journal Prompts asked
What are your sleeping arrangements?

The Kama Sutra of Sleeping Couples by Dorothy Tan

The prompts asked in respect to Owner/possession and if the sub or slave sleeps elsewhere than with their owner. While I will answer that, I also wanted to write about this prompt because I’m asked about it a lot in respect to my poly relationship.

I sleep with Mr. Faust.
Part of our polyamory boundaries is that we do not spend nights apart. This is not to suggest other poly couples should adopt this rule, it is only to express how we do things.

As part of this rule of not sleeping apart, if my girlfriend wants to sleep with me, she has to come over to my place and stay the night. Mr. Faust and I understand that this could cause some awkwardness since she and Mr. Faust do not have a romantic or sexual relationship.

We have a king size bed – a mandatory buy when we were living with our ex and the three of us were sleeping in the same bed. This allows for everyone to have their own space…and the cat to sleep where he wants to as well.

Our sleeping arrangement is that Sir sleeps between me and the door – a protective act that he has always done since we started sleeping together. I sleep in the middle since I love snuggles and I act as a barrier between two people that don’t necessarily want to be close and comfy with each other. My girlfriend sleeps on the other end furthest from the door…but between me and the monsters under the bed and in the closet…

If Mr. Faust was to find a girlfriend we would either have to figure out another sleeping arrangement or switch out slumber party nights, lol.

Sexy New Years Resolutions 2013

Happy New Years Everyone!
I hope everyone had a wonderful 2012, survived the various ends of the worlds, learned something new, and had a good time experimenting.

I thought I would share with everyone my Kinky New Years Resolutions. This was inspired by the New Years Resolutions from Em & and Lo.

  1. Have more sex.
    This sounds silly but in point of fact sex is super healthy! It helps to bond with my romantic partners, burns calories, creates good-mood chemicals in the brain, and it’s fun! What’s not to like?
    If you’re looking for ways to improve your sex life try Essence’s 10 Sexy New Years Resolutions. There are some great tips in there.
  2. Communicate.
    I recently read Pagan Polyamory by Raven Kaldera (review coming soon) and I have learned a lot about communication for me and my partners I can’t wait to put into play in 2013.
    Communication is important for any relationship, no matter if it is is monogamous, D/s, or poly or a combination of any. This may not seem kinky or sexy, but make up sex really isn’t as fun as truly enjoying your partners and not trying to kiss away the boo boos of your words.
  3. Enjoy more toys.
    More toy enjoyment means more reviews which means more blogging fun for 2013. I have a box of sex toys waiting on me and a few toys I’ve used that I’ve delayed in writing reviews on for to long. Be ready or 2013 to be riddled with dildos and vibrators, strap ons and floggers, lube and gags and blindfolds. I’m ready, are you?
  4. Hand over the pen…er…keyboard.
    That’s right. I won’t be the only one pouring over this blog. It is no longer my baby, though I will still be lead writer. My family has taken over and instead of being Mimi’s BDSM Bloggery, this is now the home of House Phryxus. You will be hearing more from Mr Faust and other members of our house.
  5. Go to more events.
    More munches, dungeons, parties, beatings, and more.
    I want to immerse myself in the dark world of BDSM and really get the enjoyment out of watching and being among others of similar mindset. I love these events and I have got to start making time and budgeting for them.
  6. Write an Ebook
    I keep saying I’m going to and keep making notes and lists and more for them but keep leaving it all by the wayside and never getting it done. This year, I’m going to write an e-book for this blog. Keep an eye out for it.
  7. Get my hands dirty
    And before you go there…I mean by being more proactive in the BDSM and Poly community. Volunteer and help with events, see what I can to to get Erotication out there, and educate myself on more aspects of it.
  8. More Interviews
    I have a list…have had a list for all of 2012 of people to interview and articles to write. I just never got around to it. It’s on my blogging priority list and I can’t wait to introduce you to some of these fantastic people.
  9. Read more
    I have a looooong list of books I want to read in 2013. I plan on reviewing all of the ones I do read. There’s just so much out there. Some of the books include Dark Moon Rising by Raven Kaldera, the rest of the Wolf Tales series by Kate Douglas, and who knows, maybe I’ll trying and figure out the 50 Shades of Gray hype.
  10. Experiment with other kinks and fetishes.
    I love human buffets and flogging but what about dollification, burlesque dancing, and in-depth tantra? So much to try and only 365 days to do it in.

I hope your new years resolutions are fun and make them something you can stick to in 2013. Don’t stress over weight, instead, try and sex diet or simply look into some plus size lingerie that really shows off your assets. There’s no point in stressing about what you did or didn’t do in 2012, live for the day and plan for the ‘morrow with a smile.

For more about Resolutions and Goals, check out The Submissive Guide’s Article about Goal Setting.