Sub Prompt: How Did We Meet?

Submissive Prompt is How did I meet the person I serve?

Sir Phryxus and I met sort of at a club sort of online. I’ll explain.

I was new in town, going to college, all virginal and shiny and newby. I talked some friends into going to a local goth night at a club called Rafters. They were having a Masquerade and I really wanted to check it out. So a group of guy friends and I went. As we were having our I.D.s checked and our hands stamped as too-young-to-imbibe a guy came out to check on the number of people they had and laughed about how here he was hosting this shindig and the only one without a mask…
Yep, that was Mr. Faust.

I saw him a few other times that night. I thought he was cute but always around girls so I assumed he had a girlfriend and didn’t approach him. Besides, the guys I was with were like brothers and wouldn’t leave me alone for one second.

Later, I was looking at the forum that the goth night had – Dancing in the Dark (which sadly no longer exists) and joined the message boards. It was new to me so when it asked for your name I used my real name and didn’t think anything of it. I got a message not long after from a guy saying I had a really pretty name.
We got to chatting and decided to meet at the next goth night. I talked some girl friends into going this time, not feeling the need to have big brother watch over me.

As you might have guessed, the online guy was Mr. Faust. I was happily surprised. We danced, kissed. He asked if I had a boyfriend. I said no. He said, “You want one?” Yea…he was smooth lol. So we’ve been together ever since.

Polyamory Sleeping Arrangements

The Submissive Guide Journal Prompts asked
What are your sleeping arrangements?

The Kama Sutra of Sleeping Couples by Dorothy Tan

The prompts asked in respect to Owner/possession and if the sub or slave sleeps elsewhere than with their owner. While I will answer that, I also wanted to write about this prompt because I’m asked about it a lot in respect to my poly relationship.

I sleep with Mr. Faust.
Part of our polyamory boundaries is that we do not spend nights apart. This is not to suggest other poly couples should adopt this rule, it is only to express how we do things.

As part of this rule of not sleeping apart, if my girlfriend wants to sleep with me, she has to come over to my place and stay the night. Mr. Faust and I understand that this could cause some awkwardness since she and Mr. Faust do not have a romantic or sexual relationship.

We have a king size bed – a mandatory buy when we were living with our ex and the three of us were sleeping in the same bed. This allows for everyone to have their own space…and the cat to sleep where he wants to as well.

Our sleeping arrangement is that Sir sleeps between me and the door – a protective act that he has always done since we started sleeping together. I sleep in the middle since I love snuggles and I act as a barrier between two people that don’t necessarily want to be close and comfy with each other. My girlfriend sleeps on the other end furthest from the door…but between me and the monsters under the bed and in the closet…

If Mr. Faust was to find a girlfriend we would either have to figure out another sleeping arrangement or switch out slumber party nights, lol.

BDSM Training – Learning to be a better D/s Partner

My latest article, BDSM Training Schools, is now available on EdenFantasys’ SexIs Magazine! Its all about two subjects I really enjoy – BDSM and Adult Homework (I know, I know, I’m weird).

In the article I discuss the trend towards educational sites and training services that are popping up online to meet the growing need for people to learn to kinky play and D/s relationships in a safe way from the pros. I focus on the schools I’ve personally checked out and learned a lot from:

  • Kink Academy which I love for its continual addition of pro instructors and videos on a large variety of topics, including hypnotism, rope work, polyamory and legal concerns.
  • The Submissive Guide run my lunaKM which offers tons of free resources including a course on how submissives or slaves can better serve through inner reflection and contemplation.
  • BDSM Training Academy run by Mistress Sophia and Master Bishop have put together a collection of emailed classes for Dominants and submissives alike and have categorized them by D/s role as well as gender. Their basic course is free.

I loved these three sites. My Only complain is that the Submissive Guide and BDSM Training Academy didn’t have many resources for those like me who switch. Yes, I’m mostly a sub but sometimes I Top and it would be nice to have some resources from them to help submissives who sometimes cross that line and how to stay grounded either way. Perhaps they will develop some in the near future.